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The Art of Sculpting Your Better Self

 It’s interesting how a new year, a new job, or a new chapter in our lives brings about a wave of optimism and a renewed sense of purpose. And how this sense of purpose, promise, and possibility fuels us to pursue greater ways of being and living…to reach an idea of our greater selves. Which reminds me of a quote from Confucius says.


“We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one.”


We eagerly commit to resolutions aimed at cultivating healthier habits, pursuing personal growth, and embracing transformative change. Yet, as the weeks unfold, that fervor we felt in the early stages begins to wane and we find ourselves navigating the treacherous terrain of the resolution rollercoaster.

Our desires haven’t changed, but the obstacles of a busy life filled with obligations and distractions, coupled with the challenges of maintaining commitment and motivation leave us teetering on the edge of doubt and disillusionment.


If this sounds like something you’re facing, then stay tuned because I’m going to provide with you foolproof formula for success when it comes to developing healthy habits, pursuing goals, and reaching positive outcomes.


Something to understand first though is the science of habit building and how to utilize something in our brains called neuroplasticity, which is the way we form new pathways, or ways of doing things. At first it takes effort…to remember to brush our teeth or tie a shoelace when it comes undone. But after 500 times or so, it becomes effortless, requires nearly zero thought. That’s because the neuropathways in our brain have become cemented in those actions. And this is what we hope to accomplish when developing healthier habits.


“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”

James Clear, Atomic Habits


Healthy habits are the cornerstone of a fulfilling life, which is why we feel the pull to be healthier, do better, and strive for improvements. From mindful eating and regular exercise to adequate sleep and stress management, these habits form the bedrock upon which we build our well-being.


The first step is setting clear intentions and goals. Knowing what your intention is, is key in not succumbing to setbacks. By setting clear intentions and realistic goals, we provide direction and purpose to our efforts.


The next step is to embrace consistency and patience. Cultivating healthy habits requires dedication and a willingness to embrace the ebb and flow of progress. By prioritizing consistency over perfection and celebrating small victories along thew ay, we lay the groundwork for sustainable change.


 Let’s not forget about nurturing self-compassion. When we cultivate a spirit of self-compassion, we acknowledge our humanity and embrace imperfection with kindness and understanding. And this is how we build strength and resilience as opposed to giving up when faced with challenges and even failures. Remembering that at any moment we can choose to turn our failures around and make better decisions moving forward.


The research claims it takes 21 days to solidify a new habit and 60 to cement it. So, what are you willing to commit to for at least 21 days? What is so important to you that you want to give 60 days to developing as part of your life and who you are?


Our environments play a profound role in shaping our habits and behaviors, which is why its important to surround yourself with supportive influences. That comes down to your social group as well as your home and workspaces. By curating spaces that inspire and uplift, we amplify our capacity for growth and transformation.


So let’s recap:


• Step 1: Set clear intentions and realistic goals

• Step 2: Embrace consistency and patience (with yourself and with the time it takes to embed new habits into the psyche)

• Step 3: Be kind with yourself, nurture your needs, practice self-compassion

• Step 4: Create supportive environments, including your mindset


 And let’s not forget to reflect and refine along the journey. Reflecting helps us realize areas for course correction, if needed. And reflection also offers an opportunity for us to realize our progress, giving us more fuel.


• Step 5: Embrace a growth mindset








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